I kind of believe him. I wont lie, I do believe most of these guys are not on my level and are not worth my time. Those that could be good potentials have children, and or situations that I rather stay away from. I refuse to settle for something that I know I do not want. I know my self worth and the person that I choose to be with must be up to par. I refuse to believe that I won't find "My Future Husband" in this whole wide world. I know that the person that checks all the boxes of "my list" exists and is only a matter of time before we either find each other, or for us to realize we are meant for one another. My friend also seems to think I am too career oriented. I do not think this is a bad thing. I feel that if I want to be with someone, that person needs to know, I am about business, I am ambitious about my goals, and I am determined to succeed. Although I put these things first it doesn't mean I don't want to be loved. I would think my significant other would appreciate my drive and see how that can positively impact our relationship as a couple and our goals as individuals.
Nevertheless, spending all this alone time has made me more appreciative of the little things in life, in regards to the male specie, here is my top 5.
1. I miss having a significant other (SO) around. Never thought I would say that, but I do. And I am not exclusively talking about the knocking of the boots either (I will get to that). I am talking about knowing that there is someone who comes to visit and genuinely wants to be around me and enjoy my company.
2. I miss cooking for my SO. I love to cook, is one of my favorite things to do. The one thing I love more than cooking is watching my SO enjoy my meal. I know there are a lot of girls who dont cook for their SO, some because they want to move away from the traditional, others because they don't know how, and some because they simple do not feel like it. I would never comprehend, but I dont have to. I do it and thats all that matter (BlogPost Coming Soon).
3. I miss being held. This is a bit out of my character. I am not the cuddling type, but I do miss being held. Sometimes after a long day of dealing with these crazy parents, I just want to come home to the arms of my SO and feel safe, and comforted. I truly miss that feeling.
4. I miss going on dates. Believe it or not, I am a simple girl (lol). I enjoy being at home and relaxing. On some occasions, I like doing random stuff. Dates are the best way to explore new and old interests, selflessly with someone else. I am the queen of spontaneity and have always found that going on random dates or lil adventures always make for great memories.
5. Best for last! I miss that good loving. There is nothing like getting my back blown, having some good food and going to sleep. My idea of a perfect date! This has got to be the #1 thing I miss. Sex with the right person, is fun, exciting, selfless, liberating, and hard to find. Once you have it, going through life without is the biggest loss ever. More importantly, understand that although sex with anyone can be cool, having the person you want is what makes the difference.
In any case, I would like to think I am not the heartless-self-absorb-workaholic maniac, some people think I am (If I am put a sock in it, maybe you should try it). I have goals, dreams, and I plan on accomplishing as many of them as possible. I love life and am humbled by the lord's many blessings and in the end of it all I just wanna be loved. Tell me if you feel me? Have your ever felt this? If so, how did you deal with it!
Love Always,
Ms. Dulce De Leche
2. I miss cooking for my SO. I love to cook, is one of my favorite things to do. The one thing I love more than cooking is watching my SO enjoy my meal. I know there are a lot of girls who dont cook for their SO, some because they want to move away from the traditional, others because they don't know how, and some because they simple do not feel like it. I would never comprehend, but I dont have to. I do it and thats all that matter (BlogPost Coming Soon).
3. I miss being held. This is a bit out of my character. I am not the cuddling type, but I do miss being held. Sometimes after a long day of dealing with these crazy parents, I just want to come home to the arms of my SO and feel safe, and comforted. I truly miss that feeling.
4. I miss going on dates. Believe it or not, I am a simple girl (lol). I enjoy being at home and relaxing. On some occasions, I like doing random stuff. Dates are the best way to explore new and old interests, selflessly with someone else. I am the queen of spontaneity and have always found that going on random dates or lil adventures always make for great memories.
5. Best for last! I miss that good loving. There is nothing like getting my back blown, having some good food and going to sleep. My idea of a perfect date! This has got to be the #1 thing I miss. Sex with the right person, is fun, exciting, selfless, liberating, and hard to find. Once you have it, going through life without is the biggest loss ever. More importantly, understand that although sex with anyone can be cool, having the person you want is what makes the difference.
In any case, I would like to think I am not the heartless-self-absorb-workaholic maniac, some people think I am (If I am put a sock in it, maybe you should try it). I have goals, dreams, and I plan on accomplishing as many of them as possible. I love life and am humbled by the lord's many blessings and in the end of it all I just wanna be loved. Tell me if you feel me? Have your ever felt this? If so, how did you deal with it!
Love Always,
Ms. Dulce De Leche
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FedUpCollegeGirl: So I really really love your latest blog post. And I completely agree with it. Especially the part about having high expectations for men. Being at my school has made me question if my expectations are too high because I expected more from a college environment. Instead everywhere I turn I find guys who are unattractive, potheads, unambitious, consider commitment optional, and have egos through the roof. So yeah...I'm still young but I've def felt the same way.
Dear FedUpCollegeGirl, I totally see where you are coming from. Expectations are set based on your needs at the time and the people who surround you. If you have a lack of good prospects your expectations will involuntarily drop bc you feel that your standards are too high. Understand that although this is normal, you shouldnt compromise your standards as long as they reasonable and realistic. Also college is the ultimate swindle because most people are too busy enjoying the college experience and not worried about being committed. You should do the same. Dont rush into anything but always keep your eyes open. Hope this helped alil.
i know how it is sometimes. good luck on finding that right dude. you know how it is sometimes though. you find someone when you're not looking. :-)
i love this post. mainly because it speaks to me. just because a woman has got her goals in check and knows what she wants, doesn't mean that she can't be loved. the traditional gender stereotype lends a hand in this game: the damsel in distress is the one that needs "saving", the one that needs love. however, the woman in the power suit, the one that's got her life together is the one that is usually dismissed as satisfied or accomplished (read: no need to love her, since she loves herself so much). men are oftentimes intimidated by this kind of woman because she has a take-no-bullshit attitude. she's not going to keep a man that doesn't know how to keep himself. i hope you find someone girl, don't settle because only dirt settles. you will find your mr. right (or mr.right now) haha!
love you,
keep out of trouble!
@Tunde I totally agree with you, sometimes thats best way too!
@Mwoldem - Girl you know the deal is a constant struggle out here! You have to be strong enough to stand on ur own but not too strong to the point people think you dont deserve the love. An ongoing learning experience. Love you too and you know I stay out of trouble! heheh
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